On this day four years ago, I was preparing to marry my best friend. It was a hot, late summer afternoon and we took our vows surrounded by a big group of family and friends. At the reception, the best man made everyone laugh and my father made everyone cry. I felt like I was in a daze of happiness for a whole week following that day. Although the excitement of the wedding eventually passes, you’re left with something even more special; a marriage. The following is a passage by Kahlil Gibran that was read by Noel’s sister during our ceremony. I love the idea of approaching marriage as a partnership; growing together but also allowing each other to grow individually.
Kahlil Gibran on Marriage - The Prophet (1923)
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.